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Ladies: Do you care what we wear to the first date?
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I imagine there are as many opinions here as there are ladies, but what do y'all expect when meeting someone for the first time? I think this is an r/OkCupid question rather than an r/dating_advice question, because in non-online dating scenarios, you have a much better idea of what the other person's style is like.
Last night, I went out on a limb and dressed it up a little bit, and I was really glad I did. We were going to a nice-ish hipster bar, and I took a chance on a tucked-in dress shirt, tie, and nice jeans. She showed up wearing a nice dress, and I was really glad I wasn't wearing a t-shirt! We didn't end up hitting it off, but she looked me up and down and sort of nodded approvingly when I walked in, and that felt pretty good.
Thoughts?
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Definitely matters. Doesn't it matter to you what we wear?
What does "take care" at the end of the date mean?
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Hi guys, so I had a second date with this lady. I was kind of anxious judging by her short texts beforehand, but it actually went okay. We talked a lot, again mostly about books and non-serious stuff. At the end of it I asked her if she's doing anything that weekend, she said she didn't have anything set in stone. I guess I was stupid and took that as she didn't want to do anything with me, so I just said okay bye. She said "take care" at the end. Is that a brush off? Should I contact her again?
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It doesn't mean anything other than "goodbye" unless she said it to her uncle in Jersey. "Take care of him."
Do guys care what the girls they date do for a living?
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(21F) I’m a straight female, international student, just graduated college and currently working for a cosmetic retail store in a mall as assistant store manager. Well I’d say I’m working in the field that I studied. This is not a very well-paid job and it’s pretty tiring tbh. Do you think guys would mind to date me because of my current job and me being an international student?
For my dating preferences, I usually go for guys who are 3-6 years older than me with a full-time job (that’s it). Appearance wise, I got a lot of likes and compliments on my look so it shouldn’t be a problem. Hence, I also prefer dating a guy who’s just as good looking as I am. Are my expectations too high?
P.s: I came to this country 1 year ago FYI
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I (29M) wouldn’t necessarily care what you do for a job as much as what your long term plans are and how your job is making you feel. You mentioned that your job isn’t well paid and it makes you tired. Do you have plans to look for a better paying job? I’d care more about a large income/lifestyle difference in a relationship then where you work.
Most people are tired to at least a degree by the end of the workday. Are you ‘normally’ tired, or is it more an I’m exhausted and crash on the couch tired? Being tired is one thing, potentially not wanting to go out and do anything because your work leaves you drained is another.
In regard to you being an international student my only question would be if you are staying in the country or moving back to your home county or somewhere else. If I were looking for anything more then a short term relationship I would want to know what kind of plans you have.
AITA for going on a date instead of taking care of my brothers kid?
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So for some info, I 24M live at home with my parents working full time as a chef, my brother is 21 and got a girl pregnant at 16 and his girlfriend and my nephew both live in the same roof. When I was younger I was jealous that my brother started dating before me but not anymore now lol. So anyways, I’m part of a writing group, and I asked out a girl I’ve known for a while and she said yes she’s a nurse so we both work weird hours.
The only time we were both free is on Monday so we’re getting breakfast together then we’re going to the movies. Now usually I look after my nephew then because I work the dinner shift but I told my brother that I couldn’t because I’m going on my first ever date. He said no worries and wished me luck but his GF started freaking out at me. She said that they couldn’t afford a baby sitter than and mum and dad are both working.
I shrugged and said that it’s not my kid to which my brother agreed, she said I was being an inconsiderate asshole. Was I wrong here?
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NTA
I think his GF is getting a little too comfortable with having you always available - she’s an adult and a mother. She needs to sort out her shit.
Will colleges care if I send the wrong date for my next ACT test on applications?
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I'm going to be re-taking the ACT this year to get a better score than the 29 I got last year, and I put on my CommonApp admissions that I'll be re-taking it in February. But I've been wondering if I should take it again in April instead mainly due to study time and possibly retaking ACT Prep classes. If I end up doing it in April, will it be treated that seriously?
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It's fine